Monday, June 16, 2008

Vist me at Anti-Racist Parent

Come and check me out over at Carmen Van Kerckhove's Anti-Racist Parent blog, where I have taken on the job of editor. Today's post is an "Ask ARP" column from a Canadian man who is adopting an Ethiopian baby with his wife:
Dear Anti-Racist Parent,

My wife and I are adopting a little infant girl from Ethiopia. My wife has read 35 books, spends hours in adoption related chat rooms, has taken courses on caring for black kids’ hair and skin etc. Suffice it to say she is really committed.

Me on the other hand…….have convinced myself that racism doesn’t exist in our small rural community outside Toronto. My faith in love and nurturing my little daughter (as I do with our 3 young sons) is the key ingredient to making our daughter feel loved and secure. Growing up my best friend was black, I dated women from diverse cultures, my parents were not racist……….so it was just not an issue. I NOW feel like my wife is making race an issue. Read more...

2 comments:

AJ Plaid said...

Congrats, Tami!

blackwomenblowthetrumpet.blogspot.com said...

Hey there Tami!

Your response was very good!

I grew up in a family with three cultures that were intertwined...three children were black and Puerto Rican...and two children had a white father who lived nearby...and ALL three cultures were acknowledged...although pro-Africa ideology was stressed.

Your advice to the father who was about to adopt a black child was excellent. There ARE people who will treat those children differently.

As we have seen in the media recently, black people are just soooo exotic...so different....so unusual...!!

Many white people do not realize that their inquisitive nature around blacks comes across as "oooh these specimens are just so interesting and fascinating!"

I don't know how many times I have had to say: "It is NOT my priority to address the miseducation of the Caucasian."

It was important for you to make a distinction between race-bias and racism.

Two years ago, O Magazine had an article about a white suburban community that adopted African boys and some of the comments of the adoptive parents were so ignorant, it was absolutely astounding to read....

Thank you for sharing your insight!

Peace, blessings and DUNAMIS!
Lisa

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